You probably heard this word mindfulness and it became a trendy word lately. A good definition of it’d be that mindfulness is the practice of bringing nonjudgmental attention to the present moment and become aware of what’s in happening in your head and in your body without carried away by it.
We all have inside of us different ways to pay attention and interact in life and it’s based on our feelings and emotions. In one day we can feel fear, love, anger, compassion, fierceness, and loving, generous, sadness. So, when we go on about our days, our interactions with other people or situations, may bring good feelings & thoughts and sometimes bad feelings & bad thoughts. And it’s ok. When you live mindlessness, you habitually and immediately identify yourself with that thought and that emotion, then you react as you always do because there is no gap between the stimulus and your reaction.
With a little bit of Mindfulness, you may notice what is going on in your body, a discomfort, an angry thought rising in your mind which you don’t necessarily have to act on it. That doesn’t mean that you deny or suppress the bad feelings & thoughts. It doesn’t mean that you won’t feel angry, sad or fearful sometimes and that you’ll be free from negative thoughts. If we try to suppress them, it would only increase the power of them, because what you suppress overtake you. Instead, we can become aware of those thoughts and feelings, not trying to interact and “resolve” them, but learning how to respond wisely rather than just react blindly. By just observing, taking a step back and detach yourself form it, you can let go of the need of act upon them. This will help strength and grow the good feelings and good thoughts so this can guide us to a more loving, peaceful life experiences.
Mindfulness allows us to see our thought and feelings as they’re beginning. It’s powerful and liberating as it teach us to choose what we strength and bring into action or choose what we can weaken and let go of. We don’t have to be at mercy of old unhealthy and negative habits or thoughts. We become empowered. It just takes practice. And it’s available to you at any time.
The science behind Mindfulness
Although mindfulness meditation is an ancient technique, only recently scientists started to study the brain of meditators. They discovered that long term mindfulness meditation practice changes the structure of the brain by increasing coherency in the brain, making it more powerful. It increase the ability: to stay calm in pressure situation, more original and creative ideas and improved memory.
To understand how mindfulness meditation affect us, we need to understand how the brain works. Scientists says that every time we learn, feel or think something new a neuro connection it’s created in the brain. Those things that we do more often, that we repeat the most, that we make it a habit makes these connection grows stronger and stronger and make things more effortless like brush our teeth for example. On the other hand, the connections that we don’t use as often, tend to disappear or lose its strength and become more effort to do. This is why habits such as shave brush our teeth are on auto-pilot and requires no effort from our brain, because we’ve done it some many times that we don’t even need to think about it. It becomes effortless. If you are a man for example and shave once in a while it will seem a little more of a difficult task as opposed to someone who shaves every day.
Research suggests that we don’t choose most of our behaviour, instead it’s programmed by these neuro-connections in our brain. Since most of our habits lies embed in our unconscious mind, it causes most of our behaviour like reacting a situation in the same way over and over. This happen because we are unaware that we are controlled by unconscious emotions. On the unconscious part of the mind, the neuro-connections are strong, so a lot of people believe that they cannot change how they act or react in situations. This automatic way of reacting and dealing with things (auto-pilot behaviour) becomes “personality”. But in fact, this is a combination of all those thoughts, emotions and habits that we have repeated over and over again through our lives. But this can changed! You can change! Our personality, skills and personality can be develops through practice. That’s why I teach mindfulness to my clients. It helps with hypnotherapy process because they start to train their brains to work in a clever way which effects their thinking and behaving in a positive way.
So, to change ourselves we must learn to change our brains by creating new neuro-connections, in other words, new healthy habits such as mindfulness and practice so they become effortless and automatic. This practice creates new neuro-connections in the brain that on the long term improves your skills of attention, concentration and awareness.
So, how do you do this?
You can practice meditation right now even if you have never meditated before. I offer a guided mindfulness mediation that will guide you through each step. Some days it’ll feel easy, on others will might feel difficult. Just stay with it doesn’t matter how it feels. 1) Look for a place in your routine where you can fit this new habit each day. Preferably the same time each day so it’s easy to become part of your routine and you will be able as usual as brushing your teeth and showering. You could this first thing in the morning, but you can be flexible with that. 2) Find somewhere you won’t be disturbed for 5-10min. 3) Make sure you are seating comfortably but upright. Feat flat on the floor, arms and legs uncrossed. And that’s it. You’re ready to do some mindfulness meditation.
Remember that practicing mindfulness meditation is one of the single most powerful things you can do for your wellbeing.
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